I received the below email from a beautiful sensitive student of mine that demonstrates a common concern of many sensitive spiritual seekers and you may be one of them.
These people have huge “antennas” and as a result they feel the pain and suffering of the world around them. Usually they do not know what to do with these heavy feelings that often paralyze them.
My reply is below her email.
I have been experiencing things very “common” to me…that have been extreme since I met you. I need help processing all of this….I am one of the antennae people that you described and it is getting too much to process. I know you can help!
Since the teacher training, however, it’s like the frequency has turned right up and I wish I had a built in dial to turn it down or off. Sometimes my stomach and chest feels so full of other people’s feelings that it’s extreme and overwhelming. Am I supposed to be doing something with all this? It seems like there is a big black mental/emotional wall if front of me and if I could just get to the other side everything will be clear and my life will take off. there isn’t anything terrible about this but it’s feeling very consuming.”
As a metaphor imagine that before you took the course you were living in a room that had constant steam fogging up the windows and you couldn’t see anything through them.
It bothered you for years but you didn’t know where this steam was coming from or what to do about it.
In the course your awareness expanded and you realized that there is a huge pot of water boiling on a stove that cannot turn off, in the middle of the room.
The pot is your mind, and the boiled water is the sum of your feelings, emotions, thoughts perceptions etc. The stove is life that keeps generating heat in different intensities and “cooking” our minds
Now that you are aware of the situation, but you have no clue what to do with it, it becomes even more intense.
“Sometimes my stomach and chest feels so full of other people’s feelings that it’s extreme and overwhelming. “
This is the reason why from the beginning you started boiling the water, so the steam would cover the windows and you wouldn’t need too see what happens out there with other people, as every time you looked out you saw pain and suffering.
“It seems like there is a big black mental/emotional wall if front of me and if I could just get to the other side everything will be clear and my life will take off.”
You don’t even need to go to the other side, you just need to clear the steam that your mind creates so you can see through the window with clarity
Am I supposed to be doing something with all this? YES!!!
In our metaphor we are dealing with a huge pot with boiling water that steams up your windows (An intense mind that creates fogginess and walls between you and seeing reality as it is)
So the question is how in a practical way you can not only change this situation but also turn it to be beneficial for you and the universe?
The answer is: If there is already boiling water in a pot all you need to do is adding fresh vegetables and turn it to a delicious soup you can feed yourself and others with.
And don’t forget to cover the pot so it does not keep steaming your windows to the outside world
If you are aware of peoples pain, it means people are in need. Instead of getting overwhelmed by your reaction to this pain which paralyzes you and makes you useless for yourself and others, use your powerful mind and get out there and serve, and give, and hug, and listen and observe and support. Become the chef that nourishes people.
I am encouraging you to continue with teaching, as teaching is a very grounding. Being grounded forces you to come out of your mind and move into actions. Working with people or animals or nature takes our minds away from ourselves. This is why serving in all forms is the best way to stop the mind from “bothering” us
Anytime you observe yourself going into despair or being overwhelmed, you know you are not doing what needs to be done and instead you are indulging with your own mind.
There is so much to do in terms of giving. Go and teach women in shelters, create more teaching opportunities for you… your students will keep you busy with their own needs. The more you give, the more you smile, the more you empower yourself. Serving others is the way to stop our own suffering.
The world needs love and attention, so it is a waste that sensitive caring people such as you, instead of reaching out and sharing love in action, get lost in themselves. Keep yourself busy, put yourself second to the world through serving and you won’t have the time to be confused.
This is not a philosophy; this is a practical way of spiritual living.