Sitting cross-legged is an important part of yoga practice and is commonly used for breathing and practices. It requires flexibility in the back thighs, back of the pelvis, and inner thighs, as well as external rotation of the hip joints. These are all very strong muscles that can take a long time to stretch. Whether you sit in a simple cross-legged posture like or a more difficult pose like (Lotus Pose), developing the flexibility to sit easily is a gradual process.
There’s something i want to share and ask.
I have encountered myself in front of the root of fear in my life. Back in my childhood when suddenly i started feeling loneliness and separation from parents, fear to their death or to be abandoned, and not to be loved. I thought i overcame that, actually, it just ‘dissapeared’, but since i met my partner and there was a chance of losing that person all that fear came back to me, recalling those feelings that i had forgotten, fear of being alone or not to be loved or unabled to give love or receive and give caress. I’m impressed how similar the feeling is comparing with what i felt when i was a child.
Is that fear just like a ‘sim card’ incorporated to human beings?. Sometimes i analize trying to understand and actually make sense (i know what you say about making sense, hehe), but sometimes relieves the heavy body.
Do i just have to live with that observing it?. I find it so limitating.
Sometimes i feel that people do not understand what i’m talking about, that’s why i like to share it with you.
If any feedback i would really appreciate it!
I have encountered myself in front of the root of fear in my life… I thought i overcame that…
All our fears, no matter what form they take, have to do directly with our state of surviving. So I can tell you right now that fears cannot be overcome. They may hibernate for while, get suppressed or disappear temporarily if we occupy ourselves with other things (this is why people keep themselves so busy all the time so they don’t need to face their fears). Sometimes fears subside when we get an illusionary fulfilment to what we’re afraid of in the form of money, love, status, good health etc. but often the fear will sneak back in. We will never overcome our fears unless we pull them out by the roots. They will keep popping up and either freeze us or simply drive us to all kinds of undesirable patterns and behaviours. As I said earlier, the root of all fears is in our identifications with our form (body mind) as who we are.
Is that fear just like a ”sim card” incorporated to human beings?
Yes as fears are a part of our survival mechanism. Very young babies do not have fears – this is why we need to take care of them; but very quickly their fears start to come to the surface, for their own protection. Small children do not have most of the fears yet that adults have; this is why we need to guide them so they don’t hurt themselves. By the time they are ready to take off on their own, they are full of fears which have mostly been implanted in them by the adults around, for the sake of protecting them.
Do i just have to live with that observing it? I find it so limiting.
Observing is the easy part (but very beneficial as a start). Observing is just the beginning. Often spiritual seekers do not evaluate right or understand how hard the spiritual path is. It is not that you do this or that, and “Boom!” you are done and all your suffering is over. We are talking about transformations, we are talking about doing the ALMOST impossible.
In the movie Avatar, the young man needs to choose a powerful creature that is a combination of a bird, dragon and horse from a huge flock to be his protector, to be his saviour, to become the man’s extension until the end of his life. The condition for this eternal bond is that the creature itself needs, simultaneously, to choose the man. The young man asks his mentor, “How do I know which of the many birds is the one that has chosen to bond with me?” And the mentor replies, “You will know as it will try to kill you!”
This is exactly what the spiritual path is all about. You know you are on it when you feel you’ll get killed by it.
Are you willing to die? If all your life you keep observing undesirable states of mind in yourself, hoping that spirituality on its own will do abracadabra and stop your suffering, you are hallucinating. This is why so many teachers and masters in the past and still to this day discourage students from going on the path of realization. There is a point that if you do not start removing all your programming and patterns, you are just adding more suffering by observing yourself, because now you can observe your suffering but you can’t do anything about it. This is where the saying ‘ignorance is bliss’ comes from: at least you suffer without being aware of it.
I have encountered myself in front of the root of fear in my life. Back in my childhood when suddenly i started feeling loneliness and separation from parents, fear to their death or to be abandoned, and not to be loved. I thought i overcame that, actually, it just ”disappeared”, but since i met my partner and there was a chance of losing that person all that fear came back to me, recalling those feelings that i had forgotten, fear of being alone or not to be loved or unable to give love or receive and give caress. I’m impressed how similar the feeling is comparing with what i felt when i was a child.
The problem is neither your parents nor your childhood nor your partner. It is a fundamental fear that rises from the small self that is afraid of not being seen or acknowledged by the tribe. Who are you when nobody is around? Who are you when everybody turns their back on you and nobody sees you anymore? When you were a child, you perceived yourself through the eyes of your parents, the first eyes that looked at you and reflected your existence to you. Now it is your partner: when he loves you, you are loved; when he rejects you, you feel you disappeared.
Most relationships are traps because we arrive to them from a need. If they supply what we need, we become addicted to them, and as all junkies we start panicking that the supply of our drug will run out. There is a reason why Buddha said ‘life is suffering’.
Are you willing to go and be on your own as long as it takes (a year, two, three? ) until you find the bliss within yourself?
Are you willing to find who you are as a higher self by stopping converting people, events and habits to be your oxygen?
Trust me, your mind will start screaming at you that right now this is not possible…maybe later…
Spiritual transformation cannot take place within our comfort zone….and there are no short cuts!